Low sex drive! Somewhere in Florida!
I and Alice are longtime friend spend so much time since my childhood, now we are almost 23. When I left Florida for New York then our connection gets loose, last December I back to pavilion. After that I found her a little bit different since last meet about 9 months ago.
I was the student of Geography and Alice was Astrophysics. I never try to understand about Astrophysics. Our main discussion topics was daily lifestyle most in the time, a rare case to subject matters. And now, I feel something different in Alice, maybe it’s about her boyfriend.
Since it begins, Alice is little bit low sex drive, but her boyfriend is almost different, why this happened? I never feel this type of issue before due to I have No Boyfriend; Very much happy with me. I didn’t declare myself high sex drive; I never tested also! Anyway, for this issue I and Alice, try to find out a solution but never fruitful.
Today we decided to go a clinic after a longtime discussion between me and Alice. Today is the that day, we are going to meet a Mayo Clinic expert, Stephanie S. Faubion, Female sexual dysfunction, Low sex drive in women specialist.
When we meet Stephanie, we are totally pleased about her expertise at the area of Low sex drive in women. We never thought that there is a solution about it, by the by we discuss various matter about Low sex drive in women.
She stated that any women sexual desires may be up and down over the years. Sexual desire may be increase at the start of a relationship and it can be low at the certain period of time and situation can reverse. Major life changes stage such as pregnancy, illness, menopause or some type of medicine can cause low sex drive in women dramatically.
If anyone suffering from lack of sexual desire and it continues over the period of time and no sign observe to develop of this condition then it call arousal disorder or sexual disorder.
If leave it and allow it to grow at your end and never seek any medical solution. The condition will go its own way. After a certain period of time, you will lose your sexual interest forever or for a certain period of time until to change it based on life style or try to different sex technique. In this condition some medication can really help you.
Symptoms of Low Sex Drive
Distress comes in life when your partner often take part in sex with other partner or other people are doing sex more than you at your same stage, this type difference may be more prominent at any stage of life.
Sometime your relation with your partner may be more strong while you are in low sex drive; its depends on situation but your strong or week sex desire. Actually there is no definition of low sex drive but some symptoms may be mentioned here to exhibit low sex drive. Its really depends on women to women, situation to situation. Symptoms may include
[]Generally, no interest in common sexual activities.
[]Only sexual activities in thoughts but not in real life.
[]Lack of sexual activities even not in fantasies in extreme cases.
[]Partly showing madness about sexual discussion in extreme cases.
[]Show negative attitude on common sexual discussion in friend circle.
[]Start crying on extreme cases if anyone discuss about any type of sexual gossip.
[]Not exhibit any sexual activities even in presence of partner or opposite gender.
When to See a Doctor
If you think that you are suffering from low sex desire then talk directly with your doctor without any hesitation and express any minute condition that you rare facing just right now. Express everything related to your low sex drive, solution may be very simple while you are thing very complex. Sometime a simple chronic disease medicine change can solve your problem, especially if you are suffering diabetes, high blood pressure or kidney disease.
Causes of Low Sex Drive
Sexual desire mainly depends on many complex things which affecting intimacy such as life style, experiences, emotional well-being, beliefs, current relationship with its surroundings. If you are in a badly-behaved condition, its effect your sexual desire.
Physical Causes
Low sex drive, may arise from physical changes, wide range of illnesses and taking different type of medications, including the following things which can decrees your sex drive:
[]Physical problem: If you facing pain during sex time or facing difficulty in orgasm, this condition may decrease your desire of sex and your partner may be disturbed for your such condition.
[]Different Type of Chronical diseases: Generally different type of sexual disease decrease sexual desire such as Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, HIV/AIDS & STD, HPV, PID etc. but some nonsexual disease can decrease your sex desire including diabetes, arthritis, high blood pressure, cancer, artery disease etc.
Some Medications
Some of the prescription drugs, can decrease your sex drive, especially in SSRI’s [selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors] such as Citalopram, Escitalopram, Fluoxetine, Vortioxetine, Sertraline etc. additionally SNRI antidepressants, Heart meds., Tamsulosin, Clonidine also decrease your sexual desire.
Lifestyle Habits
Many of us having the smoking issues, which can decrease sexual desire. Too much alcohol is the main cause of low sex drive but a glass of alcohol can add extra benefit during sex.
Surgery
In any stage of life, if you undergo any type of breast surgery or genital tract surgery, you may fall in low sex drive issue. So before undergo any type of surgery, please talk to your doctor and justify the same if the surgery is really demand or you can avoid it, also try to know the negative side of the surgery.
Fatigue
If you are physically unable to move properly or if you are facing in fatigue while you are aging parents can decrease your sexual desire. Most of the cases at the stage of time being your sexual desire start slow down day by day. This the natural phenomenon.
Hormone Changes
When your hormone level change then your level of sexual desire can change. This type of change can occur during the following cases.
Menopause
At the time of Menopause, your Estrogen hormone level decrees remarkably, for this reason your level of interest in sex may be decrease, additionally at this time vaginal tissue just dry up which may cause to less comfortable and painful sex. Though this time is not suitable for conventional sex but some of the women may experience a satisfying sex which is really different cases and some of women facing lagging libido during this hormonal change.
Pregnancy and Breast-feeding
At the stage of pregnancy, hormone changes and just after of breastfeeding women facing low sex drive. Changing of body images, pressure from pregnancy and fatigue arousal for caring new born can cause low sex drive to women. During pregnancy, some of the women are less attentive to their physical health and forget to take balance diet which is the another cause to arise fatigue to then resulting low sex drive.
Psychological Causes
Relationship Causes
Losing of connection to your partner or you are bore about your partner or you are less intimate to partner cause low sex drive. Emotional closeness is the first-rate issue to have strong sexual desire, decrease your sexual interest, is one of the cause is that you possess less emotion about your partner. Where there is no emotion or less emotion to partner then sex drive will be less, common phenomenon. Decreasing your sex desire depend on your current issues.
For many women, emotional closeness is an essential prelude to sexual intimacy. So problems in your relationship can be a major factor in low sex drive. Decreased interest in sex is often a result of ongoing issues, such as
[]Lack of trust to partner
[]No preference to sexual needs
[]Give no importance to sexual life
[]Less connection to current partner
[]Internal conflict or unsolved matters
[]Preferences to other subject rather than sex
[]Start blaming to one another regarding low sex drive
[]Live in fantasies about sex but not take part in real action
Diagnosis
If you are really feeling the lack of sexual desire or low sex drive then you may be call hypoactive sexual desire disorder in medically. If you frequently face this condition of absence of sexual feelings or low sex drive then you can really ask for medical help. You may face of series of question of your doctor including the following_
Pelvic Examination
You may fall under pelvic exam where your doctor may check your sign of physical chances which contribute low sex desire such as vaginal dryness or pain-inducing spots, thinning of genital tissues etc.
Recommended Test
Additionally, your doctor may suggest for Hormone Level checkup, diabetes, high blood pressure, thyroid problem, high cholesterol level etc.
Ask help from a specialist
A sex therapist or specialized counselor can help regarding low sex drive and evaluate your emotional and relationship matters.
Treatment
The treatment approach for most of the women brings benefit for them but all are not undergone same treatment, it may vary based on their age, condition, situation and surrounding environment. Doctor may recommend counseling, sex education, different medication, predefined hormone therapy etc. based on patient history.
Sex Education and Counseling
Ask a counselor or sex therapist against your current condition, a sex therapist or counselor can help regarding your low sex drive. Various type of therapy is available for different cases; it may include sexual education and different sex techniques. Sometimes provide or recommend reading different materials or suggest for couple exercise. If they realize that you are in relationship issue then they ask for couple counseling which may help to increase couple intimacy to decrease low sex drive.
Medications
First of all, your doctor may ask your different prescription history if you are using any medication for long time. In this case if you are using antidepressants such as paroxetine and fluoxetine which may cause low sex drive. So you need the find out the alternative of your current medication. Your doctor can can help you about this matter as they are treating this type cases for a long time. In this case your doctor may choose bupropion a different type antidepressant which actually increase sex drive and most often prescribe for women who has sexual disorder or arousal problem.
To boost your libido, your doctor may recommend FDA [Food and Drug Administration] approved different medicine for premenopausal women which may include-
Hormone therapy.
Flibanserin
One type of pill use to increase libido take once daily but different type of side effect such as nausea, dizziness, fatigue and low blood pressure face the user. If take fluconazole for treatment of vaginal yeast infections then the above side effects may be worsened. Same side effect may arise if you drink alcohol.
Bremelanotide
This the injection type medicine use administers oneself just before anticipated sexual activity at under the skin in belly or thigh. You may experience in nausea when you administer at first time. In second time this side effects may not arise. Beside nausea, other side effect like skin reaction, flushing, vomiting, headache may occur after administer of the injection.
Hormone Therapy
If you are in GSM (Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause); is a condition where Dryness or shrinking of the vagina occur which makes the sex more uncomfortable; reduce your sex drive. In this condition you can use some of the hormonal therapy which can relieve you from GSM symptoms and can bring a comfort extreme sex drive.
There are several hormone therapies include
#Estrogen
Different types of Estrogen form such as patches, sprays, pills and gels are available. Most of the cases small amount of estrogen are found in vaginal creams which mainly slowdown the releasing of ring or suppository. Any doctor can help you tom understand the risk-benefit of using of different form of estrogen. One thing can be mention here that no form of estrogen is not relating to increase your sex life.
#Testosterone
Its actually male hormone but it can play a important role in female sexual function, where testosterone occurs in male in very small amount. Using of testosterone for women sexual activity is not permitted by FDA but in some cases it use to lifting lagging libido in women cases. The use of testosterone has some side effects; it cause excess hair in women, acne, mood or personality changes in many cases. So, Taking Testosterone to increase libido; prerequisite shall be known.
#Prasterone (Intrarosa)
DHEA [Dehydroepiandrosterone] use in insert form to deliver it directly to vagina to backing ease painful sex. Mainly GSM (Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause) associated dryness is treated with DHEA. This vaginal insert delivers the hormone dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA) directly to the vagina to help ease painful sex. You can use this medication nightly to ease the symptoms of moderate to severe vaginal dryness associated with GSM.
This type of medication generally uses in night to heal moderate to severe dryness of vagina. This medicine is not suitable for women who have, have had, or think they may have had breast cancer at any stage of life since adult.
#Ospemifene (Osphena)
This medicine helps to relive pain derive from GSM. It is not approved medication for the woman who have high risk of developing breast cancer. This medication can be taken daily as a pill and relieve painful libido.
Lifestyle and Hormone Remedies
Maintain a balance lifestyle can tremendously increase your expected sexual desire.
Exercise
Simple exercise and strength related technique can help you to increase your stamina, lift up your body image, change your mood and help to increase your libido.
Stress less
Work stress, financial stress, daily hassles etc. create direct impact to mind but if you cope with this as it’s the daily practice of human life. So take it easy will release your stress create a better long desired sexual life.
Communicate with your partner
Not every couple didn’t maintain the real connection with their partner; if couple can openly discuss with their partner about their own choice then they can build a happy sexual life. Take count on your partner like dislike makes one happy life, better sex also. Communicate about sex is very import to start a happy ending.
Its Time to Make Intimacy
Any type of prescheduled sex life is always considered boring; try to get rid of it. Make intimacy with your partner and get your sexual life on the right track and enjoy till end. There are many girls who are not satisfied with their figure and even their breast size and they are worried even though it is possible to make any breast size attractive naturally. A beautiful figure can help multiply your intimacy.
Add a Little Spice to Your Sex Life
Most of the cases, all of the partner try a conventional or typical sex position which makes the sexual life more monotonous; to get rid of the situation try a different position than conventional all at your surround; try it and get back your real sex life.
Don’t hesitate to talk with your partner, express your opinion to your partner and let him thin to do that. Request your partner to spend more time to fore play before starting actual session. If can bring fantasy to your sex life by using different ways or something like that which help you most to back your sex life on right track.
Leave and Say Goodbye to Your Bad Habits
Consuming of excess alcohol, you can’t expect a sound sex life. Smoking is another cause to decrease your beautiful sex like. Try to less consumption of alcohol and give up smoking. Consumption of alcohol and smoking also cause different type of health hazard.
Alternative Medicine, Time to Think a Little bit different
over-the-counter herbal supplements may be best solution for girls who are facing hesitation to talk with doctor or want to increase their libido to up to the level. Herbal supplement contains less side effect than Allopathic medicine. Various types of supplements are available in the market and they are really helpful to girls while you are not interested to with doctor or you are in DIY condition.
Different types of dosage form are available for herbal medicine; some are tablets and some are capsule. Oily dosage form also available based on their activity. A little side effect may arise by using the herbal supplements like if you use oil in your vagina, clitoris and labia; may be a little burning situation arise at your genital area which readily tolerable but its action may be very sweet to you.
If you have any confusion, please ask your doctor before use any type of medicine or supplement.
Coping and Support
It is very difficult if you have in low sex drive while your partner possesses high. Demanding is the actual cause to lead breakup of the most of relationship. It is very frustrating that you and your partner is not able to do the same as you desire for long time; you are not so romantic as used to be.
Low sex drive creates guilty to your partner also feel disallowed between your relationship and create unusual conflict to your daily life. More type of complexation arise between the relationship turns to breakup of the partnership.
This very common the fluctuations in the sex drive in every happy relationship at a stage of relationship. Here you can alternative thing rather than sex life. Try not to focus on daily sex life, spend more time on nursing your relationship. Try spend more time on favorite places, like your favorite places, long drive, visiting historical places, different type tours, attend various charity organization, spend some time on favorite restaurant. Do something so that your partner didn’t feel you are boring to him.
You can start your religion life, start praying on yourself, be a well wisher to your partner. Thins good things always, never thing bad about your relationship. Thing your are best for your partner.
Go for a long walk. Get a little extra sleep. Kiss your partner goodbye before you head out the door. Make a date night at your favorite restaurant. Feeling good about yourself and your partner can actually be the best foreplay.